content warning: stalker-ish.
Once upon a time, a guy came up to me at work. I was seeing someone at the time, and he asked if I was single—I told him no. I found it weird that he gave me some self-pity rant about how “all the good ones are taken.” I felt guilty—and I didn’t know why.
Soon, I broke up with said person I was with at the time. This other fellow found out immediately via friends of friends and came up to me at work literally the next day after my break-up and played dumb. He asked about my boyfriend—I told him I was single. (I would’ve lied had I known how much creepy effort he put in to discovering my “status,” but alas, I didn’t.)
He proceeded to continue coming up to my place of work until eventually I started having a fling with another guy. I told him about it, and once again, he seemed heartbroken and sad. Again, I felt guilty—but I really wasn’t interested in him in any way besides friendship.
So the fling died and yet again this dude shows up—odd, I wondered, how he was never around when I was with someone, but began his usual routine when he discovered I was “available.” So, he brought me flowers. Then a stuffed animal. Then sweets. And I wanted to reject his gifts because they made me uncomfortable as fuck, but I remembered his self-pity, and once again I felt guilty, so I accepted them.
I was accused of leading him on since shortly after all this I started dating my most recent ex. Apparently I owed him “at least a blow-job,” one male friend “joked,” while actually defending the guy. “Well you DID take the flowers, and don’t you feel a little bad for the guy?” he asked, and at the time I couldn’t accurately describe my rage, but I clearly can, now.
I found out later that I wasn’t the first girl to suffer through this man’s “affections.” I was regaling my tale of this horrible guy to a friend of mine, and she stopped me mid-story and asked for a description of the guy. I told her, and apparently he’s the same guy that made her stop going to her favourite cafe. He found out she went there on Fridays for a poetry jam thing, and started stalking her.
Then I found more and more women around campus who had suffered similarly from this guy’s attention. I went back to the same male friend of mine who before defended him, thinking surely he’ll see why I was so bothered, now!
But, nope. My “friend” just laughed, and said, “Wow, man’s desperate but determined! Gotta give him that.”
This is male privilege. This is how it works. It guilts and even terrorizes women into thinking that just because a man is being nice to us, we owe him anything. It’s that disgusting sense of entitlement, “Well I bought you flowers and you accepted them, so obviously you feel the same way so take off your pants.”
It’s gross, it’s fucked up, and if you know someone who does this, sit them down and tell them why it’s bad. I’m tired of guys giving their ~bros~ breaks because “Oh, the poor dude just needs to get laid” or some shit.
And if you’re the type that does this, harasses women and then calls them on the phone sobbing when they’ve told you they’re dating someone new (happened twice with this creep) then you need a good stop on the face. You’re gross, and no one feels sorry for you but yourself, so stop trying to guilt us into returning your affections or giving you anything you don’t deserve.
The most common ad hominem attack conservatives (especially male conservatives) use to insult liberal men is insulting their masculinity or manhood or whatever, like calling them “wimpy” or “gay” (because conservatives tend to be little bitches and look down on gay people) or “pussy boy” or “not a real man” or “how pretty you look!”
You gotta wonder how insecure conservative men are about their own manhood if they think that’s the best ad hominem attack to lob at another guy…it’s pretty pathetic.
Conservative women adopt this attack because they see all the men they agree with using the same insults, I suppose.
- Teach abstinence only sex education.
- Condemn contraceptives.
- Make abortions difficult or impossible to obtain.
- Vote against social programs that help single and/or poor parents and their children.
Did I miss anything?
Repress your children emotionally so that they go wild when out from under your roof.
Better yet, kick children out once they get pregnant so they can suffer for committing the sin of premarital sex.
Not agreeing with your religion is not bigotry.
Calling you out for hate and bigotry IS NOT BIGOTRY.
I can’t even imagine the leaps in ‘logic’ it takes to think like this.c
It’s all a matter of psychology.
Stupid stupid human psychology
Just discovered one of my Facebook friends has a 392 pictures documenting the Creation Museum.
I really don’t want to look at them and scrutinize them because that’ll make me loose faith in humanity even more but it’s going to happen at some point now that I know they’re there.
Darn…I’m kind of disappointed…she’s went with a bunch of other Asian people and parents and I remember her being like really Christian before she moved away years ago…but I thought Asian Christians were better than those white hick southern Baptist Christians…guess not always….
As in, complete arrogance
“All these occupy protesters are lazy sons of bitches why can’t they get a job and become hardworking like I am”
“Fuck Obamacare/welfare/Medicaid/food stamps I’m not paying for some good-for-nothing welfare queen’s six babies (that she probably had to get government payments what a fucking slut) with my hard-earned money I mean I’m so great at getting bank because I’m so much more hard-working and not lazy compared to these people.”
“Why the hell do good ol’ respectable churches have to pay for some whore’s contraceptives when she can’t keep her cooch closed I mean god I’m so great I’m a virgin and chaste and don’t need contraceptives (which they statistically probably aren’t but shhhhh)”
“Abortions? HA! Yeah right, that irresponsible slut should’ve just kept her legs shut and maybe she wouldn’t be in that sort of situation I mean goodness gracious I would never do something like that because I’m actually responsible and awesome.”
“Oh, the lady who wants an abortion was raped? Well, fuck that shit she shouldn’t have been dressing like the slut she was and been drunk obviously she was asking for it (because somebody can “ask for” rape because rape can actually be consensual according to Merriam-Webster) I mean how stupid can she be? I would never do something that stupid because I’m so smart and great she should’ve been more like me.”
“Gay people cannot get married because they are ass-loving sinners look in the bible bitches wow it’s a great thing I’m not a sinner it’s probably because I’m the best thing ever like srsly oh wait hmmm I can’t remember if I was hanging out with my wife tonight or with that girl from the office I fuck every now and then….”
I feel this is because Republicans tend to be either stupider on average and are trying desperately trying to compensate for their lack of intellect (indeed most college professors are liberal-minded and the more education one has received, the more likely one is to be liberal go ahead and look it up) and/or are rich and are desperate for an excuse to keep every penny they make in their grasp.
A lot of female anti-feminists remind me of queen bee syndrome.
It is my opinion that these people get off on being different from what the female majority opinion should be.
They support their views by citing reality, which feminists do not see clearly of course, and exclaiming, “Well that’s just the way it is! I don’t see why feminists get all pissy and annoying about this!”
They don’t understand that feminists desire change for the better…feminists are better than the females who placidly and docilely sit around saying “that’s just the way it is! oh well! I’m better than you because I’m actually dealing with it instead of complaining!”
I also feel that these anti-feminist women value male attention over their dignity, as I so often see modern-day girls doing due to societal norms, I suppose. These women feel rejecting the feminist culture, with its sometimes abrasive remarks that offend mentally weaker men, garners them a higher likelihood of male attention.
…you might be a liberal.
You’re right let’s take down all things that had racist roots.
Let’s start with Amurica.
Chick-fil-a has the best chicken sandwiches bro. I have a lot of fond memories with those.
But ever since I realized how anti-gay and creepily Christian they were (some only hire those who have a recommendation from their pastors? why the fuck is that necessary to bag chicken sandwiches?), I’ve felt guilty about eating there.
So I think I’ll just stop. It’s not really a boycott. I just don’t feel comfortable eating there anymore, that’s all, so I won’t. They are just so blatantly supportive of hate that it’s just kind of weird.
Same reason why I frown when anyone says they are wearing something from Urban Outfitters. Yuck!
I know conservatives will complain about how these damn stores have their rights OMG how dare I try and deny them that right!!
Shut up, I’m not denying anyone their right I just don’t want to go there anymore like conservatives don’t want to go to a gay wedding.
You might be a conservative.
Or you might just be an idiot. Being “conservative” doesn’t always mean your religious…
If you’re crazy religious (and by “religious” I mean Christianity of course), there is a VERY high chance you’re also Republican, let’s face it.
Likely Michael Angelakos from Passion Pit’s single “Take a Walk”
Maybe somewhat misquoted but it’s hard to tell in the song and judging by the context, it’s at least something bad about socialists. In the USA, “socialist” is a commonly used misleading slur uttered by Republicans to Democrats.
Michael Angelakos is probably Republican unfortunately.